An emotional reaction is like fuel to fire, the more fuel you keep adding the harder it will be to put out.
Wouldn’t you rather transform that same internal energy to understand what pain is arising? Where it is coming from? to move closer to your creative flow without having to avoid the triggers that we tend to blame others for?
Have you ever woken up feeling like you are going to have the best day of your life and then suddenly find yourself losing your temper and peace over what someone said or did just because you do not agree?
or because it is not fair?
A sense of self righteousness and needing to prove that you were right all along might arise
but is it worth your energy and time to consume all of your explanations in pointless egoic confrontations?
As humans we tend to “run away” from pain and “seek” pleasure.
What if there was no “running away” and no “seeking” would pain and pleasure be perceived as the same experience?
The pain/ pleasure principles are at a constant flux and a lot of time you will meet resistance.
If there are things you want to do ( such as hug a friend) and you fear the pain of being rejected, then you are associating the pain to the action.
Same for Pleasure, a belief in moving towards pleasure such as falling in love again or achieving the perfect job is moving away from that avoidant pain.
The negative thoughts are driven by the subtle impressions of the past, the mind keeps producing negative and positive thoughts and we keep finding ourselves tossed by these powerful forces of the mind such as dissatisfaction, frustration, grief, sadness re-experiencing a trauma or a learned behaviour from a parent who has experienced trauma, so this could be a lifelong ancestral patterns to unravel.
These triggers keep representing themselves in different scenarios leaving you wondering why you keep repeating the same wounded pattern over and over again.
Is there a lesson to learn? is there a pain that is being neglected?
Recognising a change that needs to take place
If we are ignorant and receptive to the emotions they will be absorbed in the psyche like a sponge.
Recognizing the trigger
Becoming the victim of the situation and over perpetuating a feeling is self sabotage, causing more pain by avoiding pain. When we recognise the trigger the mind is being seen and if we switch the thoughts to gratitude and compassion you step into your power.
Changing the way you look at the situation.
When we identify ourselves to the emotional body and don’t take responsibility for the feelings that are arising we become the avoided pain that we project onto others, when we keep recognising that old painful pattern on the triggered emotion it becomes easier to separate ourselves from the triggers.
Whether it is something you haven’t approached yet because you are playing safe
Whether you want to stop the emotions that are not serving you.
Identify the change you want to make
Self compassion. Think of all the ways this is going to cause you pain if you don’t stop doing this, or if you don’t do the things you want.
How to break the pattern?
It’s easier said than done but it takes a lot of patience and understanding of what the quality of the problem is and where it is coming from.
Dig deeper with Sarah Yoga Love
Lighter steps away from pain, coming back to me,
or so I say in avoidance of what really lies beneath,
discomfort is so discreet.
The constant change of the unknown,
The constant blame of what is shown, imposing what I know.
Realisations surface in distance
Reactions happen in an instance.
Calm and collective, humble and respective
Pleasing everybody, becoming this protection of fear
I listen deeper than what my mind presents
Truth in misty visions,
This lioness rises, once again.
The return of self recognition.
~By Sarah Yoga Love